Saw this online:

"You post me. I post you. You act single. I'll act single. You claim me. I'll claim you. You play games. I'll play games too. Show no interest, I'll show no effort. Put me second and I'll put you last. Simple as that. This 💩 Go Both Ways"

How about:

Don't let someone else choose how you live YOUR values?

People say things like this a lot:

> "No one ever replies, so why should I put in the effort to send a nice message?" (In dating.)

Because it's the right thing to do, and it's actually more likely to get you a response from people who are looking for someone like you.

> "They lied, so I'm going to lie."

Now you're just turning yourself into them. If you think lying is wrong, don't do it. No matter what THEY do.

> "“I wouldn’t have yelled at you if you weren’t nagging me.”

How about just don't yell? If you don't think it's kind to yell, then don't.

And if you don't like nagging, TALK to your partner about it, figure out the way around it that works for BOTH of you.

I'm not lecturing...I'm warning. I've been there.

This is called blame-shifting, because you are not taking responsibility for your own actions (that are against what YOU know is right), and you are shifting the blame to the other person.

It's a common emotional abuse.

You are abusing BOTH of you, in the long run.

By allowing your emotional reactions to others to bend your ethics, you are ruing your own life. You are chaining who you are and what you value about yourself.

And you are making it harder to NOT do those not-good things when you are with someone who is good when you find them.