January 18: Roses are red, sausages are flailing…

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January 18, 2026•3 min read
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I saw a cartoon the other day posted with the comment:

“Dating for women these days 🤣🤣🤣”

It showed a woman sitting alone with her arm holding a door shut.

Behind it? A stampede of men waving hello, offering roses, desperate for her attention.

And she says, “I’m so lonely.”

A woman sits on the floor with one arm wrapped around her knees, and one keeping a door from opening. Behind the door, apparently trying to push it open are men waving hello or offering roses. She says, “I’m so lonely.”

Apparently, this image is supposed to be hilarious.

But mostly?

It just reminded me how deep in the manosnore some people are.

Because this myth—this tired, unfunny myth—that women have all the power in dating, that they’re just sitting around rejecting hordes of perfect suitors like it's a dating-themed episode of "Squid Game"...

Is pure unadultrated crap.

And I know that because I’ve been the woman holding that door shut.

Not to the masses of emotionally intelligent, self-aware men making thoughtful offers, but to this:

“I would like to date you. I am in Raleigh.”

(Oh wow! He’s geographically literate! A catch!)

“You look desperate—if you’re willing to take the appropriate action, you could date me.”

(From a guy on a social site where my photo shows I’m partnered and not looking.)

“I cheat on my wife, wanna make her your sloppy seconds?”

(Ewwww.)

“My cock is throbbing. Do you like knowing when men stroke to your pics?”

(UGH.)

These were all first messages. Also not on dating sites. Also…I really hope these guys seek help.

There are more.

Too many more.

So many that I’ve been collecting them.

I’m sharing them not to shame men—but to shine a light on how toxic, dehumanizing, and downright gross modern online spaces can get.

Someone commented when I shared one of these (not the worst, honestly):

“These make me lose faith in people.”

I replied:

“They only make me lose faith in that person. And I didn’t have much to begin with, so it’s not really a loss.”

Someone posted a version of the cartoon that showed men waving sausages instead of roses.

It was awful.

It was hilarious.

A woman sits on the floor with one arm wrapped around her knees, and one keeping a door from opening. Behind the door, apparently trying to push it open are men waving sausages. She says, “I’m so lonely.”

And it’s far closer to the lived reality of women online.

Here’s the truth I want you to take away:

Men and women are being pitted against each other online.

We’re being fed narratives designed to polarize, ridicule, and divide us. To convince you that no one’s worth trusting. That everyone’s out to use you. That love is a scam. That connection is a game you’re destined to lose.

You don’t have to buy that.

A successful relationship isn’t you versus the world.

It’s not about “all women” or “all men.”

It’s you, an individual… and someone else, also an individual. Two humans, navigating this weird world together.

That’s what matters.

That’s what I help my clients find.

If you’re ready to stop trying to “win” the dating game (by proving everyone else is a loser) and start building real, honest, and damn good relationships…

Let’s talk.

Book a free 15-minute Big Ask Consultation with me.

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

We’ll take one step together—toward the love life you actually want.

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P.S. Got thoughts on this? Think I’m full of hooey—or totally on the money?

Hit reply. I’d love to hear what this stirred up for you.

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