November 13: The quiet heartbreak of never feeling wanted…
A couple days ago, I talked to a new client who was feeling wrecked.
Not because their relationship ended…but because they were still in it and still feeling unwanted.
They said, “I just don’t feel like a priority. They always seem to make time for everyone else first.”
Oof.
Been there.
They’d tried asking for more—more connection, more time, more effort, but every time they spoke up, it either got awkward…or worse, things fell apart.
So they stopped asking.
Which, let’s be honest, is a fast track to feeling invisible in your own relationship.
And hey—if that’s been your experience, I get why you’d think that asking for more only makes things worse.
But here’s what I told them:
“It’s not that you’re asking for too much. It’s that you’re asking the wrong people.”
When your relationships are built on what you give and how well you serve…you’ll always be the one putting in more. You’ll always be the one wondering if maybe you’re the problem.
You’re not.
You’ve just never had a BEST-Fit partner—not really.
Because a BEST-Fit partner won’t:
• Make you question your worth
• Leave your texts on read
• Go cold after intimacy
• Show up sometimes and call it “busy”
• Say “you’re too much” just for having needs
• Keep you in limbo while they figure their sh*t out
That’s not love.
That’s emotional cardio.
Let’s do it differently.
I help my clients stop bending themselves into weird origami versions of who they are.
We build stronger boundaries.
We rewrite the old patterns.
And we go after the relationships that actually fit—the kind where you get to be real, and still feel wanted.
If that sounds like a “yes please”—book a free 15-minute Big Ask call with me.
Bring your hopes. Your doubts. Your mess.
I’ve got you.
https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask
Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)
P.S. Ever felt like asking for what you need just… backfired?
Tell me about it. I’m always here for the real stories.