December 9: The Midwest spice rack of masculinity…

Saw a comment this morning that legit made me cackle.

“Men that only bring money to the table are as exciting as a Midwest seasoning rack.”

I startled my cat. She went FLYING from my lap.

But after the laugh came a little pang of something else.

Not for the guy being roasted—he’s a full-on numpty.

One of those “As Seen On TV” tools that looked promising in the infomercial, but barely function and end up collecting dust next to four identical ones in the back of a shed.

I mean…bless his heart.

When it comes to nature and nurture, that guy feels like a natural.

But a lot of men weren’t born like that.

They have been nurtured into it.

Because that’s so much of the content out there aimed at men by the algos.

The manosnore.

The He-Man Woman Haters League.

The Bromeopathy influencers with their beige dating takes and emotional chalkboard screeches.

(“Be a provider! But don’t let her want anything from you emotionally!”)

...and honestly? It’s exhausting.

I get it.

I really do.

Even folks who’ve been following me for years may not know that I used to be…kind of like that.

Not a zounderkite with a podcast, mind you.

But I did believe real connection was a lie. That empathy was something people faked. That vulnerability was a trap.

Because when you’re neurospicy in the ways I am…and you don’t feel the things other people seem to feel…you start to think maybe they’re the ones pretending.

It took me years to unravel that.

To feel what I thought was fictional. To stop trying to logic my way into connection.

All of that is not a story for today, but I share this part of it so you know—if you’ve believed the wrong things about relationships…if you’ve struggled to feel things that others seem to get so easily…if you’re wondering why you keep dating like a job interview and getting ghosted anyway…

You are not broken.

You just haven’t had a better example yet.

That’s where I come in.

My job is helping people like you—good-hearted, nerdy, possibly kink-curious, a little dorky, and definitely not interested in turning into a podcast villain—find love, connection, and actual freaking joy.

Without performative niceness.

Without the 6-6-6 checklist.

Without becoming a brooding lone wolf who refuses to text back within a reasonable amount of time.

Just you, finally felt and understood and wanted. Like, actually wanted.

If that sounds like the kind of table you’d like to sit at, book a free 15-minute Big Ask consult with me:

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

Let’s get you out of the Sulk-ernet and into something real.

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. That seasoning rack comment…spicy, right? Hit reply and tell me: Have you ever believed one of those “men must provide and shut up” myths?

Or maybe you’ve had your own unlearning journey? I’d love to hear it.