November 4: Is your relationship taking more than it gives?

You’ve probably heard the old clichés:

A successful relationship is all about compromise.

50/50.

Give and take.

You get out what you put in.

Yeah, no.

That’s cute. But I call horseshit.

Here’s my actual definition of a successful relationship:

“Two people who get FAR MORE from the relationship than they give.”

And yes—both of them.

Not 60/40. Not “you win some, you lose some.”

FAR. MORE. EACH. AND BOTH.

I’ve been using that definition for years, and trust me…people have OPINIONS.

“That’s mathematically impossible!”
(No it’s not.)

“How do you know if it’s ‘far more’?!”
(It’s more than “less,” for starters, LOL.)

“But a relationship takes work!”
(Effort? Yes. Work that sucks your soul? No thanks! Different rant, different day.)

But even if you think I’m bonkers, let’s just pretend for a second that I’m right (spoiler: I am 😉)…

And ask:

What does it look like when a relationship gives more than it takes?

Because today, I’ll be chatting live with SexCoachShannon about something that gets in the way of that dynamic fast—

Denial kinks.

What they are, how they show up in relationships, and how to navigate them without tripping over your own baggage.

This is the second recording of Hoefessionals—my new weekly deep dive with people in the love, sex, romance, and kink worlds.

It’s juicy. It’s ranty. It’s full of practical gold, with zero fluff and lots of laughter.

If you’re a subscribing member of The Studio, I’d love for you to join us live.

Bring your curiosity. Bring your questions. Bring your “Wait—that’s a thing?” face.

Not a member yet?

You can join right now and hop on today’s call:

https://curiouser.me/the-studio

Because a relationship where both people get FAR MORE than they give doesn’t just happen.

But it is possible.

And understanding things like desire, power, consent, and kink?

That’s part of how we get there.

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. Do YOU think it’s possible for both people in a relationship to get more than they give?

Hit reply. Tell me what you think. I’m genuinely curious (and ready to lovingly roast your objections if needed 😘).