April 22: You are what you eat (intellectually, emotionally).

First: thank you.

So many of you reached out with kind words while I was away, and I felt every single one.

We got to Florida, we took care of business, and my partner's mom's affairs are handled. It was hard and fast and real.

It’s good to be home.

Now. Let's talk about something that's been bouncing around in my head since before I left:

You are what you eat.

Intellectually and emotionally.

The people you spend the most time with aren't just influencing your mood.

They are literally rewiring your brain.

When you watch someone experience pain, your pain circuits activate. When you're around someone chronically anxious, your nervous system starts running their pattern.

Elevated cortisol.

Heightened threat detection.

Increased heart rate.

You are not imagining that certain people drain you.

Your brain is running their emotional software inside your body.

It builds a first-person copy of whatever you observe, continuously, automatically, without asking your permission.

This is why you feel exhausted after an hour with a chronic complainer even though nothing happened to you.

This is why you feel calmer around someone grounded even though they didn't say anything profound.

Your nervous system is downloading their state the whole time. Because your brain wants you to fit in.

To survive.

It's doing exactly what it's designed to do.

Now multiply that by every person you see daily, every room you sit in, every feed you scroll.

Your brain doesn't distinguish between a toxic coworker and a toxic comment section.

It runs the simulation either way.

Most people have never audited the program.

They wonder why they're anxious and exhausted and stuck.

They blame themselves.

They never look out at the room.

You probably don't need more motivation.

You probably just need to change what your brain is eating.

The FASTEST path to feeling different isn't thinking different thoughts.

It's changing what you're asking your brain to consume.

The people. The feeds. The rooms.

Choose deliberately, or the choosing gets done for you.

If you're looking at your relationships and realizing the room you're in most might be the problem, that's exactly the kind of thing we dig into together.

Book your free 15-minute Big Ask session.

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

Let's look at what you’re feeding your nervous system.

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. This one is personal for me, and I suspect it is for some of you too. Have you ever realized that a relationship (romantic, friend, family, whoever) was quietly rewiring you in a direction you didn't choose?

Hit reply. Tell me about the meal you left, or the one you're still working on.