April 7: I followed someone else’s rules. Here's what happened.

One year and one day ago today, I started working with a business coach.

He told me to email every single day. I did (starting April 7th, 2025).

He told me to start a paid membership group. I did.

He told me to niche down hard, run Facebook ads, and keep selling even on vacation. I did, I did, and I did.

I tried so hard, you guys. I really, truly did.

And I felt stressed. Burnt out. Overwhelmed. And hemorrhaging money.

So I stopped.

Slowly at first—an email skipped here, an ad not run there.

Then all at once, I quit the ads entirely.

I started talking to people instead of marketing at them.

I asked questions to engage conversation instead of performing authority.

I rested when I needed to rest.

And my coaching business grew.

With clients who weren't even in the niche I'd spent hours perfecting for my coach (funny how that works).

But here's the part I haven't told many people: while I was grinding away at someone else's blueprint, I got myself into a seemingly inescapable hole.

I'd sold subscriptions to The Studio and fallen way behind on my promises.

I couldn't see a way out.

Which brings me to today, and ch-ch-ch-changes.

I'm making The Studio free.

All of it. The content, the learning, the tips and tools and frameworks—free, for anyone who wants it.

Because the best version of this has never been a paywall.

It's a community.

If you've paid for it in the past year, you'll be hearing from me separately. I'm making it right, of course.

It's also not quite ready for its new public iteration yet.

My partner's mother recently passed away. My sweet kitty is sick. Life happened, the way life does.

And I'm not feeling guilty about it, because for the first time in a year, I'm certain I'm moving in the right direction.

For me, for you, and for the slightly-less-chaotic world I believe happier relationships help create.

So here's what's happening right now:

Today, I'm sending Take No Sh*t! Build Better Relationships Through Discovering, Creating and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries to everyone who's requested it.

It's finally out of Amazon's exclusive program (YAY!), which means I can share it freely.

If you want a copy (and if you're reading this, you probably should) just reply with "Gimme TNS!" and I'll get it to you.

No strings.

No pitch.

Just the book, because you deserve to know how to hold the line.

(Which is a lesson I’m constantly learning. After all, I’m finally setting some boundaries here!)

Thank you for being here.

For being you.

For wanting more out of your love, your sex, your romance, and your kink. Genuinely.

Thank you for being Curiouser.

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. Replied to anything I've sent recently? Reached out with a question, a story, a "hey, this hit me"?

I read every single one. Keep 'em coming.