November 18: The secret to better relationships? Starts with your Tuesday.
Here in the Northern Hemisphere, we’re heading into the darkest weeks of the year.
Literally.
Fewer daylight hours, more (holiday and end-of-year) obligations, and (for many of us) a wild combo of overstimulation and loneliness.
So I want to give you a gift.
Not socks. Not a blanket. Something better: Time boundaries. To save your sanity.
Here's a super simple exercise from Take No Sh*t! Build better relationships through discovering, creating and maintaining healthy boundaries in three (sometimes five) simple steps that might just shift everything:
Look back at the past week, month, and year.
What do your weekdays usually look like?
Do your weekends actually refill your tank—or just shuffle the chaos around?
Does your month have a rhythm… or just a series of survival spikes?
Can you spot any flow in your year—vacations, big projects, crash landings?
If that made you go, “Uhhh… what even happened to last month?”
You’re not alone.
Most of us have no clue where our time actually goes. Especially when we’re overscheduled, running on fumes, or secretly chasing a better life we haven’t made space for yet.
But here’s the truth:
Your time tells you about your priorities. And if your current calendar is filled with chaos and crap that doesn’t light you up?
It might be time to draw some lines.
Start with these questions before saying yes to anything:
Does this have a high chance of positive effect?
Does it align with my values?
What might I lose by saying yes?
What changes if I say yes—and am I actually ready for that?
Because saying yes to one thing always means saying no to something else. (Even if that something else is a nap.)
You get one wild and precious life. Make it reflect you.
The best relationships come when we’re living from overflow, not obligation.
If you want more real-life boundary tools like this, they’re waiting for you in Take No Sh*t!
Available on Amazon + Kindle Unlimited.
Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)
P.S. Got a story about time boundaries that backfired… or changed your life?
Hit reply—I’d love to hear it.