November 11: The “gotcha” question that got me thinking…

I’m baaaaack.

Fresh off a weekend hotel takeover…and back in bed with a cold.

(10/10 do not recommend catching the plague at a sexy party.)

Anyway. While I’m sniffling my way through DayQuil dreams, a spicy little post from in a relationship advice group keeps popping into my head:

“So really. Honestly. Let’s be real for one minute. How many of you women are actually with the man you want to be with? Really? ….Like really?”

Now, I get the vibe.

It’s giving anonymous bro with a chip on his shoulder, looking for a “gotcha.”

Like he’s hoping to crowdsource proof that all women settle, regret their choices, and secretly pine for Chad from accounting.

But here’s the twist:

It’s actually… not a bad question.

It just needs a little remix:

Really. Honestly. Let’s be real for one minute.

How many of you are actually with the human you want to be with?

I answered:

“The man I’m with is quite literally the best human I’ve ever known.

I want to be with him, and he also wants to be with me.

We are not only still in love, but people who spend time with us can feel our energy and love towards each other.”

I wasn’t the only one.

Dozens of women chimed in with things like:

“Absolutely! 34 years and he is amazing every single day.”

“300% yes. I never could have said that before, but now I know what love actually looks like.”

“Freakishly in love. I’d choose him over anyone on the planet without pause.”

Of course, there were some who said no.

Or “not yet.”

Or “single and thinking about staying that way.”

All valid.

But you know who couldn’t resist chiming in anonymously? The Sulk-ernet’s finest:

“Bro it’s like .04%.”

“Almost all women are with their 4th or 5th choice.”

“Even the happy ones cheat.”

“Literally every married woman I know is either cheating or wishes she could leave.”

And I just thought…

Wow.

Way to step over the hope parade just to stomp on the nearest balloon.

Seriously—when you’ve got living proof that deep love is possible, why go digging for the exceptions like a conspiracy theorist with a foil hat?

So here’s what I want to leave you with:

1. If other people have found real love—why not you?

2. If you haven’t found it yet, or you’re in a “meh” relationship…do you want that to be the rest of your story?

3. If you’re clinging to the idea that all relationships are doomed, just to avoid disappointment…what is that actually protecting you from?

Because there is something better out there.

You don’t have to settle. You don’t have to become a cynical lone wolf in Gymcelvania. And you don’t have to believe the Sulk-ernet when it tells you that love is a scam.

You can have something amazing.

You just have to ask for it.

Want help taking the first step?

Book a free 15-minute Big Ask consultation with me and bring the dream you’ve been scared to name out loud. I’ll help you take a real step toward it—without the pressure, fluff, or frat-bro nonsense.

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. Do you think most people are with the one they truly want? Why or why not?

Hit reply—I want to hear what you think.