November 21: What if your next great love starts with a weird yes?
A few days ago, I saw a Facebook post that made my eyes roll so hard, I sprained a cornea.
It was a woman—prominent in the “date with intention” crowd—wagging her finger at other women who were embracing something called love-loreing.
According to the article she shared, “Love-loreing is a dating trend that involves dating for the plot—or the lore. These daters will say yes to most opportunities to fuel their experience and add interesting chapters to their love-life stories.”
“Dating for the plot? Ugh. Stop treating your love life like it’s a story. Be serious. Pick wisely.”
This is where the eye roll came in.
Because not only do I not think love-loreing is a bad thing…I recommend it. Highly.
After my abusive marriage ended, I went on 127 first dates in a single year.
Not because I was looking for “The One.” Not because I was desperate for love. But because I made one simple rule:
If someone asked me out and didn’t creep me out—I said yes.
It was for the experience.
But more than that? It taught me everything.
I learned how to read bios and predict behavior.
I learned what I wanted in a partner—and what I definitely didn’t.
I discovered patterns long before I had the words to describe them.
I made lifelong friends.
I had ridiculous, hilarious, and occasionally awkward adventures.
And yeah… I ended up with great stories (and a few scary ones…).
But those are not the only reasons I stan love-loreing.
Here’s why:
When I met my now-partner, 12+ years ago, I knew.
Not because he ticked all the boxes. Not because I was “finally ready.” But because all those stories and experiences gave me clarity.
I had lived.
I had learned.
I had tasted what life had to offer.
So when the right person showed up—I recognized him.
And I also knew he would need to keep being worth the work.
That’s the power of lore.
Which is why I don’t just support love-loreing…
I believe in LIFE-loreing.
Not just “do what you need to survive and thrive.” But go do things for the plot.
Go to that weird art show.
Attend the international food fest.
Take your kid to a con and cosplay with zero shame.
Talk to the stranger who’s reading your favorite book.
Try the hobby. Say the thing. Make the move.
This isn’t about being reckless.
It’s about being open.
To possibility. To connection. To joy.
You never know what the next chapter is holding for you.
But I can tell you this:
If your story’s been feeling a little stale lately—maybe it’s time to add some new pages.
And if you want help writing the next chapter?
Book a free 15-minute Big Ask consult with me. You bring the hope, the dream, the sticky question—and I’ll help you take your next step.
https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask
Let’s make 2026 the year your story gets really good.
Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)
P.S. Ever said yes to something just for the story—and it changed your life? Or maybe you’re wondering if this “life-loreing” thing would actually work for you?
Hit reply and tell me. I’d love to know.