February 10: Words are spells. Labels are shortcuts.

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Last week, I was talking with a client about labels.

The kind we use in relationships. The kind we cling to. The kind we reject on sight.

Somewhere in the middle of that conversation, I found myself quoting Alan Moore — because of course I did.

He once said (paraphrased, but faithfully):

“A grimoire — a book of spells — is really just another word for grammar. To cast a spell is to spell. To manipulate words is to change consciousness.”

And honestly?

I’ve never been able to un-know that.

Because words are magic.

If I say pink fairy elephant, you now have one in your mind.

I just reached into your head without asking permission and installed a tiny, ridiculous creature using nothing but language.

What could be more magical than that?

And like all magic, words can be used beautifully…or sloppily…or harmfully.

Which brings me back to labels:

Monogamous.

Nonmonogamous.

Poly.

Open.

Monogamish.

Labels are not truth. They’re shortcuts.

They’re sketches, not blueprints.

They’re meant to help us communicate quickly about very complex inner worlds… not to replace curiosity, nuance, or consent.

Where people get into trouble is when they treat labels like rigid spells instead of flexible tools.

When they assume a word means the same thing to everyone.

When they stop asking better questions because they think the label already answered them.

Tonight, I’m running Nonmonogamy: Labels, Labels, Who’s Got the Labels? And whether you are monogamous, nonmonogamous, or still figuring out what the hell you want—this conversation matters.

Because the way you use language around love, sex, romance, and kink will absolutely shape the experiences you have inside them.

Join me tonight.

We’ll talk about how labels are meant to work.

How to use them as doorways instead of cages.

And how to communicate more clearly — without losing yourself in the words.

Register here for Nonmonogamy: Labels, Labels, Who’s Got the Labels?

https://offers.curiouser.life/labels/register

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. If you want to hear Alan Moore (an English author known primarily for his work in comics including Watchmen, V for Vendetta, and others) go even deeper into language, writing, and magic, this talk is a delight: