November 17: This holiday? Skip the bullsh*t
I’m planning my annual holiday party. Thanksgiving is peeking around the corner like a nosy neighbor. The to-do lists are multiplying.
And let’s be honest—the holiday chaos is starting to froth.
So today, I want to talk to you about something revolutionary. Something delicious. Something... freeing.
JOMO.
You’ve probably heard of FOMO—Fear Of Missing Out.
But this? This is its grown-up, sexy cousin:
Joy Of Missing Out.
It’s the quiet confidence that you don’t have to do it all, permission to prioritize rest, to skip the parties you dread, and to not go to a third Friendsgiving in one weekend because “it’s tradition.”
(Whose tradition? Martha Stewart's? Satan's?)
JOMO is a mindset shift—and a damn worthy one.
Because here’s the truth:
How you spend your time shapes your relationships. All of them. Including the one you have with yourself.
In Take No Sh*t, I break down six types of boundaries(all are GREAT for the holidays and family gatherings!):
Emotional
Intellectual
Sexual
Physical
Material
Time
And time boundaries?
I believe they’re the stealth MVP.
Too often ignored, frequently violated, and rarely talked about. But oh baby, do they matter.
Time boundaries are about what you say yes to and what you don’t. They’re how you let people know, “You matter to me.” Or—“You don’t get all of me right now.”
It’s not about being mean or rude.
It’s about being smart.
Here’s how I break it down:
That's Life – Grocery runs, laundry, getting your oil changed. Maintenance.
Workin’ in the Coal Mine – Your job, your side hustle, Zoom meetings that should’ve been emails.
Go the F*ck to Sleep – Rest. Sleep. Recovery.
Too Much Time on Your Hands? – Personal time. The stuff that actually lights you up.
If you’ve ever found yourself resenting plans you agreed to, snapping at people you love because your bandwidth is fried, or wondering why you’re so damn tired when you haven’t done anything fun all week…
You might be overdue for a little JOMO.
Because your time is sacred.
And anyone who treats it otherwise might need a polite little “Nope.”
(Or, depending on the level of repeat offense, a “Go lick a duck.”)
Want to show up better in your relationships?
Start by protecting your calendar. Don’t overbook yourself into bitterness. Don’t stretch yourself so thin trying to be everything to everyone that you forget to be something for yourself.
You don’t need an excuse, just a boundary.
Tomorrow, I’ll share a super simple way to figure out where your time is actually going—and how to reclaim it.
But if you're already like, “Hell yes, I want this boundary magic in my life,” grab a copy of my book:
Available on Amazon + Kindle Unlimited.
Your future self will thank you.
Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)
P.S. What’s something you’re secretly excited to miss out on this year? Reply and tell me.
The more scandalous the better. Bonus points if it involves family group texts or office potlucks. 😏