January 21: You’re not Romeo. Life isn’t a romcom.

He’d been dating her for two months.

Things had been going well, he said.

Both recently divorced. First real relationship for both since the splits.

Then one night, she told him:

“You weren’t affectionate like usual. You didn’t hold my hand in the car.”

He’d had stuff on his mind. Wasn’t thinking.

At the gym, he walked ahead of her to the car.

Not malicious. Just… oblivious. He even said he looked back, and didn’t understand why she wasn’t keeping up.

Then came the fight:

“I don’t feel loved.”

“I don’t feel wanted.”

“I want to feel chased.”

He tried to apologize. Tried to hug her. She pulled away.

He got upset and left.

Next day? Blocked on every platform.

He dropped flowers and a note at her door. She was home. Didn’t answer.

Now he’s asking:

Do I walk away? Wait for her to come around?

Show up in person again? Reach out some other way?

Here’s what I told him:

She has blocked you. Period. Full stop.

That is not a riddle. That is a boundary. And I don’t care if she says she “likes being chased.”

A good man respects a boundary. Period. Full stop. Again.

But let’s zoom out for a second.

Do you want a relationship with a woman who blocks you over one fight?
Is that the level of volatility you want to build your future on?

You also said you weren’t thinking of her.

So I ask you:

Is that who you want to be only two months into a relationship?

That comfortable? That distracted? That detached?

Because if this is someone who matters to you…why did you show up like she didn’t?

And on the flipside—

If this is your version of trying... is she actually right for you?

Also: Do you want a relationship that’s this basic?

You’re not a dawg chasing tail through Gymcelvania. You’re a grown-ass man looking for something real.

This isn’t about her.

This is your wake-up call.

A chance to ask yourself:

How do I want to show up in love?

What kind of love do I even want?

What version of me attracts that?

Right now you’re stuck in Hopefluffing mode—convincing yourself “this was just a misunderstanding” and “things will be different” when really, it’s a mirror and a warning.

And maybe?

A damn gift.

If you’re tired of reruns like this… let’s talk.

Book a free 15-minute Big Ask with me.

Bring the drama. Bring the questions. Bring your past. I’ll help you turn it into your next chapter.

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Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. Ever chased someone who clearly wasn’t open to being caught? Ever stayed in something because you were afraid it might be the best you’ll get?

Yeah. You’re not alone.

Hit reply and tell me what you’ve learned the hard way.