October 27: Not sure? Scared? Good. Do it anyway.

The sun’s not even close to rising, and I’m already in a virtual room with people across the globe, thanks to FLOWN.

It’s a virtual co-working app, where we check in, say what we’re working on, maybe chuckle over someone’s cat doing something weird in the background, and then we get to it.

This morning, we were asked to share:

“What’s your go-to tip for handling doubt when doing something new?”

And I blanked. Not because I didn’t have an answer. But because I had a feeling about that question.

So I looked up the word “handle.”

Definition #2: manage (a situation or problem).

Which led me to…

Definition #2 of manage: succeed in surviving or attaining one's aims, especially against heavy odds; cope.

OK. So handling = coping. Surviving.

And maybe this sounds ridiculous, but…I don’t feel like I handle doubt.

I’ve never found a hack or a trick or a 5-step system to deal with doubt. It’s just... there. All the time. Like bad hold music for my brain.

One of the guys in my breakout session said it well:

“I’m really good at the stuff I’ve done before. But when it’s new? I’m absolute shite.”

YES. That.

I don’t handle doubt. I accept it. I acknowledge it. And I do the damn thing anyway.

Because what’s the other option?

Let doubt win?

NOT write the thing?

NOT try the new way?

NOT show up for the life you actually want?

Sure. You can do that. And a lot of people do. They say: “I can’t do it the way I want, so I just won’t try.”

That’s... allowed. But holy heck, it’s a sad trade-off.

This weekend, someone in a discussion thread said they wanted to connect with women—but were thinking of giving up, because all the women they knew complained about their male partners.

And honestly, I get it. If all you hear are horror stories, why would you want to risk becoming one?

But I told them: “My partner is THE most amazing human I’ve ever known. And the people I spend time with? They ADORE their partners. Maybe try finding people who represent the life you want.”

Because this isn’t a dream. It’s not a fantasy. It’s the result of saying:

“Yep. Doubt’s here. Cool. I’m doing it anyway.”

THAT’S what creates the life you actually want.

Not waiting for confidence. Not waiting for clarity. Not hoping the doubt goes away.

You choose.

You do.

You repeat.

You get better.

And then one day, you wake up next to someone incredible who makes you laugh, makes you think, and maybe even pats your butt affectionately when they finally get up and shuffle to get their coffee…

And that brings me to this:

If communication is something you doubt you're doing well…if you’re scared to say the wrong thing, or confused when your partner’s saying all the right words but something feels off...

Join me tomorrow night at 8pm ET for "Actions Speak Louder Than Words: Or do they?”

We’ll explore how we miscommunicate, misunderstand, and sometimes accidentally murder our relationships with good intentions and bad communication.

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. This workshop won’t just help you express yourself more clearly.

We’re also diving into how to “read” others more accurately—so you stop missing key signals and start understanding what’s really being communicated.