October 3: Confidence isn’t what you think it is.
I’m in Asheville right now with friends.
My sweetie’s joining us this afternoon.
And at this exact moment, I’m sitting in a dark hotel room, tapping this out while everyone else is still asleep.
There’s something I love about this — that quiet before the day starts. Before breakfast. Before the laughter. Before I’m pulled into the swirl of delight.
But this morning, I’m thinking about you.
Yesterday, I was editing my Regret-Proof Love Workshop to post in The Studio — and I hit play on a section I barely remembered saying out loud.
But when I heard it again?
Damn. It landed hard.
View it on YouTube. (And subscribe!)
“So confidence itself is not built from never failing, right? It's built from living as close as possible to a life without regrets, where you are doing everything within your power to live genuinely and within your values.”
It’s not about perfection.
It’s not about never messing up.
(You’re gonna mess up. Welcome to the club. We have snacks.)
It’s about living in alignment with who you actually are — even when it’s scary. Even when it means risking rejection. Even when it means not following the script everyone else says you should follow.
This is what builds confidence.
Not fake swagger.
Not posturing.
Not “alpha energy” or “be in your feminine” or any other horseshit some ‘fluenceris selling.
Just… you.
In integrity.
Making choices you can be proud of — even if they’re messy.
So if that quote hit you the way it hit me? And you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and actually ask for the relationship you want?
Let’s talk.
Book a free 15-minute Big Ask consultation with me — and bring your biggest question, hope, dream, or desire.
We’ll start there. We’ll see what’s possible. And I’ll help you take a real step toward it.
Here’s the link to grab a spot:
https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask
Now, if you’ll excuse me… I’m off to find biscuits and gravy and fresh mountain air.
I hope you have a beautiful day too.
Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)
P.S. That quote — does it hit you too? I’d genuinely love to know what came up when you read it.
Hit reply and tell me. I read everything.