November 24: “I don’t want this to get weird” (but it might).

Have you ever had a friend catch feelings?

Or…have you caught them yourself?

Two of my clients are going through this right now—from opposite ends.

Client A? They have a friend. That friend recently expressed romantic interest.

Client B? Is that friend to someone else. Crushing on someone they care about, who doesn’t know how they feel yet.

And both of them are terrified of loosing their friendship.

Which I get.

It’s messy. It’s nerve-wracking. It feels like one wrong move could detonate the whole thing.

So let’s talk about Client A first.

They told me, “I’m not interested. I told them that. But now I don’t want things to get weird.”

And my answer?

“Then don’t make it weird. That’s not your job. You don’t have to ‘fix’ anything. You don’t owe them a reward for their courage. You said your piece. If it gets weird, that’s on them.”

We talked more.

Turns out this isn’t their first rodeo. A few years ago, a different friend confessed feelings, and instead of moving on, they stuck around.

Kept dropping hints. Pining. Waiting.

Three. Years.

By the end, it was dark, manipulative, and frankly? A clusterfluff.

That’s when I said:

“You have a right to say: This friendship WAS good. Now it’s not. And that’s enough.”

Because a friend who makes you uncomfortable isn’t being a good friend.

Because you don’t have to twist yourself into a pretzel to preserve someone else’s fantasy.

And because when someone wants more than you’re willing to give, no amount of “being nice” will fix that for them.

Set. Some. Boundaries.

Boundary-setting isn’t rejection.

It’s reality-checking.

And it takes practice. Especially if you were raised to be “polite” or to keep the peace at all costs.

Tomorrow, I’ll talk with you about Client B, the one who wants more and isn’t sure what to do.

But for now?

If you are sitting in one of these situations: crush-zoned, friendzoned, or straight-up confused?

Let’s talk.

Book a free 15-minute Big Ask consultation.

Bring your messy, your awkward, your “what the actual heck do I do with THIS?”
We’ll sort through it, together.

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. Have you ever been in this situation? On either side of it? What did you do?
Hit reply and tell me. I wanna hear how it went—the good, the bad, or the gloriously weird.