January 12: 49% of coaches are below average 😬

Today Selene and I are driving home from teaching in Columbus, OH and stopping to visit family, and while in the car, I’ll be quickly perusing the new certification program I just enrolled in.

It’s focused on coaching and mentoring Neurospicy people.

Which, let’s be honest…I already do.

I can also always learn more—and being certified and recognized for the work I actually do helps me reach more people who need it.

I bring this up because I’ve been in a conversation lately in one of those “let’s help men understand women” groups on the internet.

A man—who described himself as a coach—shared that he’d learned a lot from the women in the group. Great! Then he added:

“One thing I’m struggling with: sometimes when men ask a question that comes off ‘ignorant,’ people get offended.

I get why. But isn’t the whole point of this group that women help men understand what we don’t know yet?”

I was honestly shocked.

Not because of the question, but because a man who coaches others posted it.

Let’s take this apart:

He’s struggling with people getting offended.

Online.

By questions that he himself thinks come off as ignorant.

My sweet summer child.

You’re a coach.

He then says “I get why,” and then immediately—doesn’t.

(That “BUT” does a lot of heavy lifting.)

Then, he tosses himself into the same pool of confusion he’s supposedly helping others swim out of.

My man. You are ALL over the place.

Now maybe you read that post and didn’t think twice about it.

That’s fair.

Most people haven’t studied thought patterns and language closely enough to track the dissonance when it slips out.

I have.

When someone presents themselves as a coach—especially in the men’s space—I expect them to know what they’re signaling.

Because their language matters.

Because their unresolved stuff leaks into their clients.

Because men who are hurt, confused, or disconnected don’t need to be led by someone who secretly feels the same way but hides it behind helpful-sounding questions.

This is why I say:

“Forty-nine percent of coaches are below average.”

You deserve better.

If you want support from someone who doesn’t need you to manage their projections while you’re trying to grow…

Grab a free 15-minute Big Ask consultation with me here:

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

Let’s see what’s actually going on—and what we can shift together.

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. Have you seen similar posts—or coaches—who give themselves away without realizing it?

Or am I the only one lurking in the language weeds with a red pen and a seriousside eye?

Hit reply—I’d love to hear your take.