August 31: Is height really the problem?

Someone posted this question in a poly group this morning:

"Is height an indicator of creating a successful relationship? Asking as someone under 6ft."

My first instinct wasn't to answer the way so many did.

“This is a stupid question.”

“Is this rage bait?”

“No, duh.”

It was to ask a better question back:

What are the most important factors in a successful relationship?

And once you've named them, which of those are actually affected by height?

I can think of one.

Attraction.

Specifically the initial, superficial kind.

The kind that gets you into—or a chance at—a relationship

(Nothing wrong with that, by the way. We're all a little superficial at first glance.)

And yes, being under 6ft will absolutely kill your chances with some people.

That's real.

But I'd bet when you answered my first question, you didn't stop at "attraction."

Maybe you said honesty.

Not affected by your height, unless you're lying about it.

Maybe you said humor.

Or shared values.

Or communication.

Or kindness.

None of those care how tall you are.

My partner is 5'10".

We've been together 13 years and we are still, embarrassingly, deeply in love.

I run mixers and sexy parties, and one of the humans I adore most there is 5'6".

Right now he's sharing his life, and his play, with a gorgeous woman who's 5'5".

He is living his absolute best life.

So here's the part nobody wants to hear: you get to decide how much power you hand your height.

You can let it be a footnote.

Or you can let it run the whole story, tank your confidence, and quietly wreck relationships that had nothing to do with your shoe size.

The choice is yours.

(It usually is.)

If you're ready to figure out which "it's just my height" story you've been telling yourself, and what's actually standing between you and the relationship you want, let's talk about it.

Book a free 15-minute Big Ask consultation with me.

Bring the height thing, or whatever your version of it is.

We'll find out together what's really running the show.

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

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Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. What's your version of "it's just my height"? The thing you've decided is the reason, so you don't have to look any closer or work any harder, because there is no point?

Hit reply and tell me. I read every single one, and I promise not to laugh.