July 17: The world will never change for you.

Yesterday my inbox filled up fast.

A bunch of you, my beautifully neurospicy people, wrote in about Guess culture.

About how you can't function in it.

About how you don't understand it, and honestly?

Wish it would just... go away.

One person went further. A full rant about how frustrating it is to live in a world where Guess culture people even exist, because it doesn't work for them.

I get it. I do.

That feeling is valid.

Every bit of it.

And here's the part that's harder to sit with: the world will never, ever change to suit one person, or one group of people.

And it shouldn't.

Just as many of us are baffled and made uncomfortable by Guess culture, plenty of people are equally baffled and uncomfortable with Ask culture.

Same friction you'll find between introverts and extroverts.

Different wiring, same collision.

Being born with a brain that works differently isn't your fault.

It isn't mine either.

But it is our responsibility.

If we want rewarding, love-filled lives, we have to do everything in our power to build that.

Not to please anyone else.

For ourselves.

One of my readers was clearly in a rough spot emotionally.

They weren't sure they'd ever find a way to connect with people the way they want to.

Been there.

It's not easy.

It takes longer than you hope.

But the payoff, at least in my experience, is worth every frustrating minute.

Here's the thing a lot of us neurospicy folks are actually excellent at: reading data and patterns.

That's one of the tools I use with my clients constantly, teaching them how to connect in ways that work for their brain, not against it.

How to Ask for what they need without triggering every Guess culture person's nervous system.

Less presumptive.

Less aggressive.

Less "here's my need, now go carry it for me.”

I'm AuDHD myself, in case that wasn't already obvious.

I figured most of this out through research and trial and error, long before I got certified to work with other neurodivergent folks.

My experience isn't yours.

But it has given me a toolkit most coaches simply don't have, because I've lived on both sides of this exact wall.

If any of this hit close to home, let's talk about it.

I've got a free 15-minute Big Ask consultation, and yes, the name is entirely on purpose.

Book it here: https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

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Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. If you're neurospicy, does Ask culture or Guess culture feel like the bigger mismatch for your brain?

Hit reply and tell me which one trips you up more, and how.