May 26: "I'll burp it, but that's it."

Good morning.

I took a long weekend, and it was lovely.

Came back this morning refreshed and ready, and the first thing waiting for me was an anonymous question. I love when that happens.

Here it is:

"How/when should I explain that my penis might be too large for general play? I have been in situations where ladies can not handle my size. They laugh at the failed attempts and/or tapping out, but I am worked up. How can I avoid in the future?"

This was totally fine until: "but I am worked up."

That little phrase changed the whole flavor of the question. Whether they meant it that way or not, their state of arousal is no one's problem but theirs. Full stop.

Story time.

When I was younger, I dated a man who was 10"x7".

The first time we were together and he pulled that out, I looked at him and said, "I'll burp it, but that's it."

We both laughed.

But what made me fall for him, genuinely fall, was what came next. Not just that night. Over the months that followed.

(MONTHS!!)

He was completely unbothered.

He'd specifically developed hand and mouth skills for women who couldn't or wouldn't take him, because his attitude was "That's OK, too."

Absolute stellar human.

We played with hand jobs, partial entry, him stroking himself while I licked his head, dirty talk, fantasies, frottage against my body, my thighs together around him.

He explored every inch of connection available to us, and he made sure I got mine, every single time.

He never once brought up his size before we had sex.

Not once. I appreciated that enormously.

Because until both people are ready to see and touch and taste what we're actually working with, it's a ridiculous hypothetical.

Whether I could take him, and whether I would, was entirely up to me, in the moment, every time.

Over time, he got me so hot for him that we figured it out.

Because he understood there was far more to sex together than whether he could fit.

He focused on me instead of himself.

And he told me, two weeks before he passed, that we had the best sex of his life BEFORE and after we “fit.”

He also gave me a lifelong joy of being frigged through panties…

Be better at sex, and you'll rarely be left "worked up."

That's my answer.

If questions like this one are swirling around in your own dating or sex life, that's exactly what the Big Ask is for. Let's talk:

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

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Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. I'm curious: have you ever been in a situation, size-related or otherwise, where the physical logistics of sex were a challenge? How did you and your partner handle it?

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