May 1: The holiday you didn't know you needed.

Happy Masturbation Month!

Yes, that's a real thing.

May is officially International Masturbation Month, and I'm here for the announcement even if I'm not personally its biggest enthusiast.

Here's the thing: I'm not going to pretend I spend a lot of time on this particular hobby.

I don't.

But that doesn't mean I think you shouldn't, and it definitely doesn't mean I think you should feel weird about it if you do.

Because a lot of people do feel weird about it. Ashamed, even.

And that part bothers me.

Masturbation has real, documented benefits and I think more people deserve to know that and to explore their own pleasure without the weight of shame sitting on their chest the whole time.

So, in the spirit of the month:

It reduces stress and improves mood. Orgasm releases oxytocin and dopamine. Your brain doesn't particularly care how it got there.

It helps you sleep. That same neurochemical cocktail that makes you feel good also helps your nervous system settle. Better than doom-scrolling at midnight, I'd argue.

It's genuinely good for your body. For people with prostates, regular ejaculation has been linked to reduced risk of prostate issues. For people with vulvas, it can ease cramps and improve pelvic floor function. Bodies are wild.

It's the original way to learn what you like. You can't really teach someone how to play an instrument you've never touched yourself. Same energy.

And maybe most importantly: it's yours.

No performance required.

No one else's needs to manage.

Just you, figuring out what feels good.

That's worth something.

So if May gives you even one moment to explore your own pleasure a little more curiously, a little less shamefully…I’m calling that a win.

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. What's your relationship with this topic? Were you raised with a lot of shame around it, or were you one of the lucky ones who somehow avoided that?

Hit reply. I actually read these, and this is exactly the kind of conversation I love having.