April 27: I followed my joy. It led me here.
Friday night was the first play party of the season.
Capped at 200 people, about 170 showed up, a Wild Things theme, KINKO (think BINGO, but kinky), and weather so perfect it felt like the universe was showing off.
I was full of joy.
Real joy.
The kind you can't manufacture.
Here's why that matters:
I got online for the first time in 1994.
AOL, Compuserve, Prodigy.net.
I collected them like trading cards. I joined message boards, nets, groups. I built my first "website" (one enormous GIF, I am not ashamed). I taught my first online class in 1996, built an online business, helped other businesses get online, coded communities for friends, traveled to meet people I'd known for years through a screen.
The internet was magic to me.
I believed in it completely.
So imagine my surprise when I realized I didn't love it anymore.
That I didn't believe in it as a mostly-positive force the way I used to.
That I actively dreaded running the large online community I'd helped build, because the whole point was online connection, and I'd quietly stopped believing that was enough.
It scared me a little.
That belief had been part of my identity for thirty years.
But I followed my joy through the fear.
I stepped down. I stepped away.
I traded a massive online community for a small Discord server built specifically for people who show up in person, who connect in the flesh, who want to look someone in the eyes and laugh, and talk and yes, get a little sexy.
And Friday was the first Swingler of the season after making that choice.
It was a banger.
Every single person in that space chose to be there, face-to-face, fully present.
That confirmed everything for me.
So today I'm asking you: what joy could you be following, if you weren't afraid?
Maybe it's in your dating life.
Maybe it's in how you're showing up (or not showing up) in a relationship.
Maybe you already know the answer and just need someone to help you think it through out loud.
That's exactly what my free Big Ask session is for. Fifteen minutes, no pitch, just a real conversation about what you actually want.
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P.S. Have you ever made a choice that scared you because it meant letting go of something you used to love?
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