March 25: He calls it a "ho drawer." I call it hospitality.

A man shared something in a Facebook group recently, and I have to share it with you.

He says he sleeps around openly, with no apologies.

His roster changes and he’s transparent about it.

And when connections naturally shift from romantic to just friendship, he values that too.

A few of those friends like to browse what they call his "ho drawer."

He dedicates a whole bathroom drawer to his female guests. Inside, you'll find:

• Unopened eyeliner

• Unopened pregnancy tests

• Unopened toothbrushes

• Unopened hair brushes (he notes: amazing hair brushes)

• Unopened pads

• Unopened nail files

• Unused hair ties, bobby pins, acetone

• Clear coat, Venus razors, a flat iron, a hair dryer

Typically, the women he connects with are very happy to utilize that drawer.

Here's the word I would use for this man: affectionado.

Affectionado

/əˈfekSH(ə)ˈnädō/

noun.

An individual so authentic, emotionally evolved, and delightful, they generate spontaneous referrals from friends, lovers, even exes…for romance, friendship, or recreational nudity.

He thought about his guests before they arrived.

Without knowing exactly who they'd be.

Without a transaction attached.

That's not just a drawer. That's a value system.

Full disclosure: I have one too.

I don't call it a "ho drawer," but several of my friends would absolutely volunteer that name.

I call it "Important Sh*t You Might Need."

Mine doesn't discriminate by gender, relationship type, or reason for being there.

It's on my Tour for Virgins™. That’s what I call the walkthrough I give anyone visiting my home for the first time.

Mine includes travel-size mouthwash, gum, mints, allergy and pain meds, first aid supplies, tweezers, condoms, small lube samples, and hydration sticks. Nobody has needed the condoms yet, but they're there and no one ever has to ask me to duck out so they can grab what they need.

The point isn't the stuff.

The point is what the drawer communicates:

I anticipated your needs. I prepared for them. Your comfort matters here.

AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO ASK.

That's care as a practice.

Not a performance.

If you're curious about what kind of partner you're showing up as—or want to figure out how to get there—let's talk about it.

Book a free 15-minute Big Ask call.

Bring your real question. I'll meet you there.

https://my.curiouser.life/15-minutes-big-ask

Rev Heather, aka Nookie, LUQ
https://my.curiouser.life
+1-855-712-5433 (toll-free)

P.S. Do you have a "drawer"? Or a gesture, a habit, a little act of care you do for people in your space, romantic or otherwise?

Hit reply and tell me. I want to know what thoughtfulness looks like in your world.